Monday, September 15, 2008

UR WORTH MORE THAN A FEW MINUTES IN THE BED!!

THESE GLASSES R SO DOPE...BUT IMA TAKE EM OFF FOR A MINUTE CUZ I WANNA U TO LOOK INTO MY EYES WHEN I TALK TO U ABOUT THIS TOPIC...



SORRY I MISSED U GUYS SUNDAY TOOK A LITTLE DAY OF BUT IM BACK LIKE I LEFT SUMTHIN...LOL...
HOW MUCH DO WE AS FEMALES CHERISH OUR MOST VALUABLE GIFT? "SEX", YEAH I KNO TOUCHY SUBJECT, NOT CUZ IM STILL A VIRGIN AM I BRINGING THIS UP BUT LIKE DO WE AS FEMALES EVEN CARE WHO SLEEPS WITH US NOW?
LAST NIGHT I WAS IN HARLEM CHILLIN ON THE BLOCK WITH MY "SLIMES" (PEEPS)..LOL..THEIR GUYS LIKE MY BROTHERS AND THEY WERE TALKIN ABOUT SEX AND THIS GIRL AND THAT GIRL, THEY WAS TRYIN TO GET ME OUTTA THEIR CUZ I WAS "LIL SIS" THEY AINT WANT ME AROUND, BUT THEY STARTED TO TALK ABOUT GIRLS FROM ALL OVER ESPECIALLY AN AREA IN NYC CALLED THE BRONX AND ONE OF THEM SAID BE CAREFUL WHO U SLEEP WITH OUT THERE CUZ AT LEAST 500,000 ALONE HAVE THAT "MONSTER" (HIV/AIDS), AND THAT JUS MADE ME WONDER WAT THE HELL IS GOIN ON OUT HERE IN THESE STREETS. GIRLS OUT HERE IN MY AREA IM JUS SPEAKIN ON WHERE IM FROM BUT IM SURE U ALL HAVE THE SAME ISSUES WHERE UR AT ALSO, BUT GIRLS HERE OVER TIME HAVE GOTTEN THIS ATTITUDE TO TAKE ON THE ROLE OF THE "GUY", MEANING SOCIETY HAS TAUGHT US THAT THE "GUY" IS THE ONE WHO SLEEPS WITH MANY PARTNERS DOESNT CARE WHO THEY SLEEP WITH AND THEY HAVE THIS MENTAL MISSION THAT EVERY GIRL IS A NOTCH ON THEIR BELT. WELL NOW ITS STARTIN TO SEEM LIKE GIRLS ARE DOIN THE SAME THING THESE DAYS, NOT TO SAY THAT THEY HAVENT BEEN DOIN IT BUT THEY'RE DOIN IT NOW MORE THAN EVER.
SAFE SEX IS ONE!! LIKE LETTIN A GUY GO RAW U BUGGIN OUT NOT JUS CUZ OF PREGNANCY, BUT BECAUSE WHEN U SLEEP WITH A PERSON U SLEEPIN WITH WHOEVER THAT SLEPT WITH. WAT IM TALKIN IS ON A MORAL LEVEL, SOME GIRLS BE BUGGIN THE HELL OUT, U SLEEP WITH A GUY CUZ HE GOT CUTE EYES, CUZ HIS HAIR CURLY, CUZ HE THE MOST POPPIN BOY ON THE BLOCK, CUZ HE SHOOT PEOPLE, CUZ HE CUFF HIS PANTS IN THE COOLEST WAY YEP ITS TRUE PEOPLE LIKE THAT R OUT THERE..SMH... I REALLY ENCOURAGE ANY GIRL OUT THERE THATS READIN THIS AND LIVIN THEIR LIFE LIKE THAT TO SLOW THEY ASS DOWN FOR REAL. I EVEN HAVE SOME PEOPLE I KNO THAT ARE "FAST", AND ITS NOT ONLY DISGUSTING BUT HIGHLY DANGEROUS. YA LIFE IS ON THE LINE WHEN U GET IN THE BED WITH SOMEONE U DONT KNO, VALUE SUMTHIN THAT EVERY GUY IS CHASING, LOVE URSELF. IT REALLY ERKS ME TO SEE THIS GIRLS SLIDING OFF AND JUST GIVIN THEIR SELVES UP TO WHOEVER, AND HISTORY REPEATS ITSELF SO REMEMBER THAT WHEN UR BIRTHIN UR CHILD, CUZ SOME PEOPLE HATE TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR AT THEMSELVES WHEN THEY'RE DOIN SUMTHIN WRONG AND UR OFFSPRING WILL BE THAT MIRROR WEATHER FEMALE OR MALE IT GOES EITHER WAY NOT JUS SEX, DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, CRIMINAL ACTIVITY EVERYTHING....
I JUS HAD TO LET THAT OUT!!LOL... I LOVE U GUYS, COMMENT LET ME HEAR UR VIEWS I'LL SEE U IN THE MORNIN...PEACE!!!!

30 comments:

Fresherthana_mug! said...

Get 'em Young T!! This is seriously bigger than an statistic, it's more like a curse! These lil girls and boys don't need to be sexin' cause they will end up with kids that repeat the same thing cause they have no morals and cause "dunks" get nicer each day.....I'm just saying...

ariana. said...

miami is outrageouss i know sum1 who is 13, the girls already done everything, everyday its a new thing with a new dude. Its gettin worsee people are getting pregnant everywherrreeee. use a damn publix bag lol. im not saying abstinence is great but think about who your about to have sex with...get tested damnitt we dont need another i am legend lmao.

TavyDay said...

serious topic for a young lady, but you know what, this is great... this say's to me that now, more than ever, kids are paying attention! parents need to be talking to their children about SEX cuz you best believe their friends are talking to them about FUCKING!

big difference right?

dig it, a young person is going to do them. i don't care what church they grew up in, how good they were as a baby, their going to be curious about life and become who they are. but this is the jist of it. PARENTS/ADULTS, arm our youth with adequate decision making skills.

so if they fuck up (which they will, we all do)it will be out of curiosity, not ignorance. it's harder to bounce back from an ignorant mistake. a curious one can be just a dangerous, but more likely to be thought through before the actual occurrence.

young folks are dieing on the inside and their physical actions reflect their emotional/spiritual death. i'm all about working from the inside out. when your mind & spirit are in the right place, your body will follow. it works the opposite way too.

be smart y'all... i deal with the same issues at 23. shit, the dudes don't get smarter or less whorish because their older or more mature. the chicks still give their "coach purse" up all crazy, maybe even more than younger folks...

just be aware & raise awareness.

good job Teyana!

-TavyDay

Cat Hill said...

Wow so true It's not just Harlem it's where I live too, its an empidemic everybody and they momma got babies it's like a fad over here...not to mention the diseases going around...smh

Shandy said...

Kids nowadays seem to have no discourse for what they do and whom they do it with. I know some people that lost their v-card to complete strangers and then just feel like there is no problem with that and everybody in the world is safe just because they used a condom. Which to me is terrible because you lost your innocence to a complete stranger who could have killed you and just because you use a condom doesn't always mean your protected. It seems like since sex and sexuality is always out there and publicized kids don't know to deal with it and are peer pressured to want to have sex. Kids should learn to deal with what is coming their way and learn to say no and keep their legs closed sometimes.


I feel that parents feel like schools are going to teach their kids about sex and they aren't or parents feel a little too uncomfortable and don't know how to approach their kids. My mama didn't give a darn about comfortableness she made sure she told me about it and there were no ifs, ands, or buts about it. Parents need to make sure they talk about sex with their kids and make sure their kids are raised with good moral values so that they do not been seen as they around the way girl or boy.

There is nothing cute about having sex with so many different people especially in a short amount of time, no matter if you're a girl or boy. That's just nasty and disgusting and hopefully these people are doing their best to remain safe and clean.

I'm just glad that I'm not the only one around who feels this way. More people young and old need to think about this and apply it to their lives.

Ho0di3 said...

that aids/hiv we call that woo banga out here in jerzy, but yea its not jus out der its mos def world wide sex is indeed somthin these kids out here should be cherisein sex jus aint sumthin 2 do it has meaning nd deep emotion that comes along with it, idk how many times i tell ma lil cousin if i could turn bac the clock i would of NEVA gave it up i was goin strong, but yea kids out here is trippin had more sex partners than they had yrs that they been on this earth GOTTA cut that out for real!!!!!!

Carmen Sandiego said...

Yeah it's DEFINITELY not just there in Harlem, Teyana, it's freakin goin on everywhere!! I'm in Nashville and I swear EVERYBODY here has kids!! I always be like "Damn, what's in the water?? Remind me not to drink it!" LOL. Pretty much every1 I went to high school with has kids. U do a Myspace or Facebook search on your classmates and u see they got lil shorties runnin around..

But females HAVE to respect themselves, because if u don't, nobody else will, and this whole nasty cycle will continue. And with me being gay, u would think I wouldn't have to really deal with an issue like this, but that's SO NOT TRUE!! A lot of these studs out here (or doms, or whatever they're called in your region..) really act like guys in every aspect, especially when it comes to having sex. I've had to learn a couple lessons, both by watching others & personal experience, but one thing I do regardless of who it's with is make sure I'm safe. No doubt about that!

And I'm not gonna lie, sex is an amazing thing, but I'm not addicted to it. Shoot, if I go without it for awhile, I'm not gonna bug out about it. That's when u take care of the job yourself...LMAO! But I'm currently in a relationship with someone, and we've been together almost a couple of months. We have done the do only once, and I'm actually kinda glad because sex is not the main focus of our relationship, cuz that's where I tend to get screwed (in more ways than one!). If ur with someone and they really care about u, then they'll wait a lil bit before taking that step if u so choose to.

- -pøεtrч is mч εscαpε said...

I lauughed a little bit when I saw the title because me & my friend ; well lil sistah was talkin about this yesterday !

I see so many girls just give their self to any guy and think it's okay when it's not. Sometimes it can be because the guy tells you what you wanna hear ; something that's happened in your childhood ; or some just don't care.

I'm 20 ; and has been with my boyfriend since I was 17 and he's the ONLY person I've been with. Honestly ; I don't know if I would be with anyone else if were to ever break up because I have to deeply love you to give myself to you like that. . .

Mooky said...
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Mooky said...

Yo u r so right about everything. Yo my mom not to long ago work for the Kc free health Clinic and her department was for safe sex, gay sex, and so on. I use to read all about HIV/AIDS and all the other STD'S out there in the world when i would come to visit her job and i would always hear about reports she would have to file for her clients who were HIV positive and who where also having all types unprotected sex wit people witout tellin the person they had the disease. Im not at all the type to mess around bcuz of hearing these things. I still a V bcuz i cant trust any dudes expect my friends and they like fam and plus cuzzo Tiana who just so happens to live in the Bronx will kill me and the rest of my cuzzos if we give it up.... bcuz she messes around and she doesnt want to see another one of her runnin around. There are people in my school who are mad fast it not even funny. I tell the friends that i have, who just so happen to be mostly dudes, to calm down wit that shit bcuz their asses be fucking around wit different girls every other day. And its like they wont be satisfied until they about to die from somethin they could have prevented......or untill their dick falls off LMAO!

But real talk people need to stop.

shalasin26 said...

Sex Is Sex

No One Knows Why A Person Has Sex But The Person Thats Doin It

You Can't Judge A Person By Outer Apperearance..You're Outside Of Their Box..You Have No Idea What That Persons Been Through Or Why This Path Was Set In Front Of Them

Who Are You To Say Someone's Fast Because They've Had More Sex Partners Than You Would Have At Whatever Age They Are

Yes, Safe Sex Is The Best Sex But It Is Also Raw Because A Condom Doesn't Protect Everything And You Can Still Get STD's and HIV/AIDS and you can still get PREGNANT

And The Whole Rule About Once You've Sleep With Somebody Then You've Slept With Everybody That They've Slept With..STRAIGHT BULLSH*T
If That Were True Then That Would Just Prove A Well Known Theory That EVERYBODY IN THE WHOLE WIDE WORLD IS GAY!!!!

Mirror, Mirror On The Wall
Self Reflected Image
Not Everything Repeats Itself

I Do See Your Point Teyana But There Are Too Many Sides To This To Just View Your Side
And I'm Not Saying That Some People Don't Do What You've Spoke Of But A Percentage Of Them Aren't Who They're Perceived To Be

Fiddle said...

Finally someone who has the same out view as me. I'm 16 and I'm still a virgin. What is the big deal about having sex. You wouldn't even know how it felt if everyone around didn't talk about it. My peers has no moral standards. They talk about this girl and this dude. They just don't care, but when something happens they want forgiveness. I try to educate my peers but they don't care. Safe Sex= Abstinence

--day said...

i think the thing about that with young kids is that, it starts in their household. most of the parents hide sex from kids because they think it`ll keep them from asking questions. but really all that does is make them go out in the streets. and these days kids are starting YOUNG. like my lil cousin is 12 yrs old in the 5th grade and he says it`s 3 girls in his class that are pregnant. and i`m like wtf? like how is a 12 yr old out there meeting up with boys and gets pregnant. like when i was 12, i was still out tryna play football and collecting barbie dolls. worrying about when i was gonna go ² a slumber party, not laying up with no nigga. i think if they parents talked to them then it would help, tell them not to put themselves out there like that. cause i mean if they wanna have sex, they gone do it regardless, but if they`ve been talked to about the risks, then they`ll be smart about it. but it`s like everybody is having a baby, like it`s a new trend. like most ppl get jordans... collect shoes, chicks these days wanna have babies all willy nilly like it`s cool. and dudes think it`s cute to be having sex with different girls, you might hear certains rappers talk about that shit in songs, but that`s it... it`s a song, you gotta be realistic ... that shit ain`t cool, ain`t nothing sexy about a dude who has been with mad girls, got a few kids and still waay out there, and it`s the same thing for girls. like some girls here BRAG about fck`n randome dudes, like it`s a goal or something, like "yea me and him got down in this old house down the street" ... like wtf? and YES a chick really told me that. and i`m like "yo that's nasty", she like "how? we used a condom" .. smh. it`s rediculous. like these folks is not playing down here in memphis. that`s why i`m in no rush to have sex. cause you can`t fully trust some dudes these days smh.

itsmekhadijah said...

I too am I virgin but are around the topic of "sex" alot. Alot of girls around me will have sex with a guy because he got a nice whip and cash, but what they don't seem to understand is that there are plenty of other girls tryna get on the same train, females should just save their ticket until it's the right time, right train, and it comes around again. I believe sex is not worth it, Education before Sex is what I say.

There are plenty of more hot dogs for your buns, only time will tell. Lmao

Tayia said...

Yessssssssss. I Live In Harlem 2 & its like Come Onnn Do U care About Ur body at all like its not cute if thats wat u think. I Have so many fast friends like its just ughhh like u just stop hangin around them after a while. And it Becomes Sad When Ya dude friends Have Nmaes For Them & They Known All Around smh! But Im glad u brought this topic up cuz its sumthin that really needed 2 be addressed :-)

Zachary said...

I can't speak for these "fast girls" as I am a guy and I believe strongly in the many ways that two people can show affection for each other without taking their clothes off.

But on behalf of guys, including those who are having sex with these girls, I'd like to offer the following:

1. I've heard a lot of women over the years stress how they want a man who's "experienced," even for her first time. But where's a man to get experience if every woman he meets is "saving herself?"

2. Many young women will give it up to a man whom they believe to be "the one," only to regret it later. Such regret is unforeseeable.

3. Some guys have far more self-control than others. I have yet to meet a woman who can tell who's who at a glance- though I have met some who swear up and down that they can. LOL.

4. Where some women aren't guarded enough, others are too guarded. There should be more of a balance.

Peace & be safe y'all.

Star said...

Thats so good your still a virgin. I'm 18 and I'm still a virgin I value my virginity so much I can't just let any guy just take it. I know alot of girls who just loose their virginity just because they want to fit in or they don't value it I think thats stupid as hell. Man here in D.C the Monster is spreading more quickly than ever there's people just walking around infecting people and not caring. Sex is such a serious thing thats why I'll wait untill I get married for that moment. Me and my husband can go and get tested together. Another thing alot of woman think that there husbands cant infect them. I know a woman who was married for a long time and her husband was sleeping with men on the side and infected her with the monster. I think its the safest to use protection even with your husband too and when you want kids go get tested again. I can't understand why someone would work in the porn industry with the monster spreading and all these other diseases. Those men and woman are disgusting and don't repect themseleves.


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netto said...

hey teyana...its netto here!...i dont really have much 2 say on dis topic bcuz my dad is O.D strict...basically psycho wen it comes 2 boys...omg...but i kno better not 2 get or b on dat levell...but im glad u write these blogs every day(except the recent sunday..lol) i feel like i kno u..its crazy..it feel like u one of my close friends or sumthin..but i read these everyday..i was a lil upset wen i checked it on sunday lol..but u help me out by me always thinkin positive and basically keep my head up and havin my own style and stop worrying about other ppl interpertations(i prolly spelled dat wrong lol) on me..thanks alot..keep doin u and empowering us...im only 16 and it feels like im sounding older..lol...ttyl T!...(catch u on da flip side)..nobody say dat anymore prolly...lol

uncslady said...

ON SOME G SHYT, U HIT IT ON THE NOSE WITH THIS SUBJECT... U BEING A CELEB AND ALL MAYBE THESE YOUNG CHICKS WILL LISTEN. I'M FROM JERSEY AND AROUND HERE THESE GIRLS DON'T THINK ABOUT WHAT'S MOST IMPORTANT, IF THEY WITH A CUTE GUY THAT EVERYOTHER GIRL WANT THEN TO THEM THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS.... OH YEAH AND DON'T LET HIM HAVE A FLYY CAR CAUSE THAT'S ALL HE NEED 2 GET IN HER PANTIES.... I'M GONNA JUST PUT IT THIS WAY SOME OF THESE GIRLS IS JUST YOUNG, DUMB, AND FULL OF CUM..... (AND PLEASE EXCUSE MY FRENCH)

Beautyishername said...

I think it was a good issue to bring up bcuz that seems like the new way of life. And it seems that when girls do have sex with lots of guys its bcuz they are hurting. Its like they are doing this to cover sumthin else up that deeper rooted. I have a friend who is promiscuous and she says she does it bcuz boys do it to us. And I try to tell her like you cant do wat guys do bcuz ur not a guy. A womans body is their temple its a reason our sex part is on the inside its a temple. Ur not supposed to let everyone inside. Plus u never know what these people got out here. People think o i will never get aids its so unlikely but U NEVER KNOW. Its always best to be safe and use condoms or just dont have sex at all. But if ur gonna do it get tested first and then use a condom.

angelicaardoin said...

THIS WAS A NICE LIL SUBJECT..SAME THING ME AND MY FRIENDS BEEN TALKING ABOUT ON FACEBOOK THIS WEEK...LOL..WHAT A COINCIDENCE..LOL

BUT YEA...SEX IS NOT A HOBBY!

ITS SOMETHING THAT SHOULD BE DONE IN A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP..OR A MARRIAGE FOR THAT MATTER..

SEX...SMH...PEOPLE WONT LEARN UNTILL THE 6 FEET UNDER..I KNO SUM1 DAT GOT HIV AND DIED..LOST HER VIRGINITY WITH HER 1ST BOYFRIEND.....AND DIDNT KNOW DUDE WAS LIVING FOUL!!

BUT YEA

WRAP IT UP...IF U DO DO "IT"...

IM OUTTIE

:)

dEEE said...

i really admire that you wrote something like this, cuzz it is a serious topic, and its funny that there are not a lot of girls out there, who don't know how precious it is just to stay pure. From the beginning i always, always, ALWAYS told myself, that i wasn't gonna follow everyone, and that i was gonna set myself apart from everyone else.

And its crazy because, sex is just something that now ppl will just give up fast and thats it, not alot of ppl know that when your sleeping with that person, all the other ppl that person slept with, stays with you, so its like a spirit, so at the same time, all that nastiness comes with it lol

And its like everywhere u turn now, everyone is popping out kids, like it has become a "trend" left,right and centre, most of my friends have kids and my cousin was like "uhh i think its time for you to find some new friends" lol, cuzz im on a waaaaaay more different path then they are.

I'm just glad you wrote something like this, cuzz even reading this made me realize too that im doing something right, that its ok if im not like everyone else, besides if you noticed a guy has more respect for a girl who has self respect for herself, then for one who's been with every dude on the block. I just think girls need to wake up, and let understand that there "virginity" is a sacred thing, and that there body is a temple forreal.

anywhoo thats all i have to say :)

shawny123 said...

heeeey i kno im extra late but yea i totally agree i kno alot of people like this! and like the second person said yes miami is outrageous for girls doin it wit everybody and not even carin who dey sleepin wit, i live in miami, them lil girls need to calm down and control themselves! florida is one of the most notorius states with the highest rate of teenage pregnancy! its definitlay a bad thing we nedd more young gurls like u tellin us its wrong to be givin our body away!

J.LOUIE DA DUKE said...

Real talk!!! I see your Aware of the Frizos that Scare. ALot Of People dont Worry But i'm glad your Care

DJ-JFRESH said...

YOU REALLY IMPRESSED ME WITH THIS ONE TEYANA, BECAUSE OF THE SIMPLE FACT THAT WE ARE THE SAME AGE AND WHERE IM FROM NO ONE OUR AGE TALKS OR EVEN TAKES WHAT IM TRYING TO SAY INTO CONSIDERATION. AND IVE BEEN SAYING WHAT YOU JUST SAID SINCE I KNEW ABOUT STD'S HIV/AID, AND PREGNANCY. I GUESS IT JUST FEELS GOOD TO KNOW THAT THERE'S SOMEONE OUT THERE WHO FEELS THE SAME WAY ABOUT IT AS YOU DO!

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rene_the_super_producer said...

that is real talk.....these people now be trippin....i live in da atl and we have that problem too...one girl messin with all these guys...one guy messin wit all these girls it's just mad crazy.
they think "oh i can't get aids or i cant get pregnant" and i say it can happen to anybody.some people don't even know the person's last name they messin wit or even they first name probaly.it's just messed up because i know about 15 girls who are pregnant right now and all of em are under the age of 18.these people need to get it together seriously....i'm glad to see that people my age realize that sex is serious and you better know what your getting yourself into....
love the blog cuz it's real

-Rene : The Super Producer

copperdadon said...

that was deep and sad and guys be doing the same thing going up in these girls raw and don;t know them from a hole in the wall

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hiphopucit said...

Teyana,

I want to thank you for mentioning AIDS in this article because so many young people are unaware of the affects of this deadly epidemic. I would love for you to get involved with our national R.A.P on AIDS Campaign. That we are looking to launch really soon. For more info please visit http://www.raponaids.com and contact us at raponaids@yahoo.com thanks, looking forward to hearing from you soon!

Edward